The "S" word, Submit

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  

Eph 5:22

As wives we are told to submit to our husbands, as unto the Lord.

If God told you to stop working in Sunday School, would you?

What if your husband asked you?

If God asked you to have supper ready when he got there, even after a long tiring day, would you?

What if your husband asked you?

If God told you to do something, anything, would you argue with him, or pout, or question his authority?

What is your response to your husband?

We are told to submit to our husbands, as unto the Lord.  God has made our husbands our leaders.,and he has told us to follow them.

We obey and honor God when we obey and honor our husbands.

Do you believe that God knows what he is doing and will take care of you?

He knows what your husband will say and do.

He has still asked you to submit to your man.

Challenge

-Critically look at how you respond to your husband.  

Do you have a negative attitude when he expresses his wishes or thoughts?  

Do you ask him if he's sure about his decisions?

Do you manipulate him with your questions, bible verses, subtle hints, etc?

Would you rather have a fair marriage, or a happy one?

Thank you...

Challenge
-Write a list to your husband containing the things you are thankful that he is, has done, or is doing.

No action or trait is too small.  Thank him for everything.

Somewhere there is a wife who wishes her husband would do what your man already does.

Bettering

A joyful wife is better than a perfect home-maker. (1 Thes. 5:16; Phil. 4:4)

A forgiving wife is better than a correct wife. (Mark 12:31)

A reverencing wife is better than a physically perfect wife. (Eph. 5:33)

A praying wife is better than a convicting wife. (Phil. 4:6-7)

I have learned these things from elder women and from first hand experience.

Challenge

-Write down 2 things that would make you a better wife for your husband.

Not what would make you better in the world's eyes, but what will make you more precious in his eyes.

Study the bible for yourself.  What does it say we should be as believers and wives?

Man of your life

Challenge
Pick and do 2 of the following to your husband; he's the man of your life
-Give your husband a full body massage

-Place a sign in your yard that says something like "THE WORLD'S BEST HUSBAND LIVES HERE"

-Clean his car

-Eat by candlelight

-Make a point to touch him every time you pass him, hold his hand while sitting with him, and maybe play footsie at the table.

-Jump in the shower with him

-Send him a sexy text and then follow through later

Eyes only for you...

I know the last post was about modesty, but that does not mean go out and buy a bunch of denim jumpers and straight skirts.

If you want your husband to look only at you, make it more fair and become someone worth looking at.

Find out what he likes for you to wear, and how he likes for you to do your hair.

Make a decision to dress up for him when he gets home.  

Change out of your sweatpants and baggy t-shirt.

Put your hair up, or braid it and put a fancy barrette in if you don't have a lot of time.  

Throw on some mascara, if you where make-up.

Most importantly,

Always wear a smile and be ready to laugh.

Challenge

-Dress up for your husband for the next 5 days.

                               and/or

-Have him pick out your underwear every morning for the next 5 mornings.

Modesty

Modesty is about protecting brothers in Christ, not about protecting yourself.

Men think differently than us.  Much differently.
I have found the following website extremely useful in helping to understand the male mind.
The Rebelution Modesty Survey
They took men, from many different countries, ranging in ages from 12 to over 50, and asked them what they think is modest, and what is not.
Most of men take complete responsibility for their thoughts, but it would be nice if their sisters in Christ helped them out.

It's about putting others first, and keeping them in mind.

You may not know what the man, who sits the next pew over, went through before he was saved.  Even though he may be striving to follow Christ whole-heartedly now, do you want Satan to use your apparel to remind him of something in the past?

Do you dress for attention, wearing something just because it makes you look good?

Does your husband approve of the clothes you wear out of the house?

Is he afraid to say something to you about them?

Challenge

-Critically think about your wardrobe and your attitude towards clothing and men.

If you think that men just have dirty minds and should keep their eyes to themselves, please look at your heart attitude.  Love puts others first.  

If you wear an outfit just because you think you look great in it, please beware.  Before my husband and I were married, the times he stumbled were the times I thought I looked great, and I dress and act very modestly compared to most women.  

If you are unsure about something, don't wear it.

And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Matthew 22:39

Whose adorning, let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

1 Peter 3:4&5

No one likes a whiner...

Challenge
-Say nothing negative today.  Period.

Homework...

No one likes to come home to a stressful or messy house.

Challenge

-Do three things around the house that will please your husband. 

Maybe it's finally clearing the papers off the desk, or maybe it's getting the bedroom set up for a romantic night.  No one knows what your man will like better than you.