Regardless...

You expect your husband to love you, regardless.

Do you respect your husband, regardless?

Challenge

-How do you think about your husband everyday?  Write down three things you appreciate or admire in your husband.  Thank him or praise him for one of them.

Pride

Challenge
-Tell your husband how proud you are of him

Maybe you will leave a post it note on the bathroom mirror, or the rear view mirror of his car telling him you are proud of his desire to take care of you.

Or maybe you will call him and tell him you are proud that he is an ethical hunter.

Or good at video games.

Or good at reading bedtime stories to little ones who are not sleepy.

Or maybe you're proud of the way he looks.

Friendly...

Are you someone that your husband wants to be around?
Are you cheerful?
Do you keep it together until he get home and then collapse into a heap of grouchiness, weepiness, and irritability?
Do you dress up for other people in Walmart, but just throw on some sweat pants for the rest of the day?
Do you nag him or are you secretly irritated with him?

I am not saying these things won't ever happen, or even that some of them shouldn't ever happen.
One of the most beautiful parts of marriage is when the other person loves you, regardless of how you look, or act.
There should be nights when you just pour out your heart, or times when you both kick back in pajamas to watch the football game.

I'm just saying not to take your husband for granted.
Thank him for holding you when you are weepy.
Make a concerted effort to be less grouchy when he is home.
Dress up for him.
Listen to how his day went before telling about yours.
Take a night to refrain from saying anything negative.

Challenge
-Look at the way you act around your husband.  Are you someone that he would want to be around?

Clothing

Challenge
-Wear something you think your husband will enjoy

It doesn't have to be lingerie.

Maybe your husband has said he likes it when you wear a ballcap, skirts, his favorite team's jersey, leather boots, lipstick, _____________(Fill in the blank)

If in doubt, wear no underwear and make sure he knows it.

Oldies but goodies...

Challenge
-For every year your husband is old, write down something you like about him

Evaluation

Evaluate your heart toward your husband.

Are you harboring bitterness in the form of disappointment?  

Are you frustrated with him more often than not?

Are you constantly thinking he is making mistakes?

Are you getting lazy and not making an effort to put him first?

Remember that God loves you and your husband.  

God still knows what your husband does and doesn't do.

He still watches your reactions and responses to your husband.

He is still teaching your husband, still shaping him.

Be patient.

Enjoy your time with your husband.

Be his smiles and his encouragement.

Believe that God will enable him.

Believe that he can take on the world.

Fall in love with him again by serving him, remembering all the good things about him, and laughing together.

Challenge

-Evaluate your heart.

-Ask God to show you where you need change and that he would help you change

-Ask God to give turn your heart wholly toward your husband

Helper...

Challenge
-Do 3 things that will be helpful to your husband today

Compartments...

Assume the best

If your husband is frustrated, don't take it personally.

My husband describes men as having compartments.  They put their fear in one, their work in another, etc.  They are able to just shove feelings and events into their compartments and not think about them.

But when some of these compartments (Stress and fear mainly) get full, they overflow with frustration and anger.

Understand that you, as a person, are probably not the root of his anger.

If you have done something wrong, apologize and work on fixing the problem, but don't walk on eggshells.

Believe that your husband has good intentions, even when he is a bear.

Most men have a desire to be a good husband and father.

Most of them do not have a desire to get angry.

Love him anyway.

Pray for him.

Even if he is angry, he would still die for you, the greatest act of love.

He still loves you when he's angry.

He probably even still likes you when he's angry.

Challenge

-Next time your husband is grouchy, angry, or frustrated pray for him

PIck 2...

Challenge
-Pick two of the following

-Send him a letter, text message, or e-mail praising or thanking him
-Make his favorite food for dinner
-Wear his favorite lingerie underneath your regular clothes (And make sure he knows it)
-Clean the area he spends the most time
-Spend the whole evening with him
-Give him an entire body massage

Love...

True love is not a feeling, or an emotion.

It's choosing to stick with someone, no matter what.

Respect someone, even after they've fallen.

It's putting them first, period.

Regardless of the finances, you laugh together.

Regardless of how insensitive he seems, you serve him cheerfully.

Regardless of how many things have been broken, how many kids have thrown up, how many minutes he was late, you still kiss him and tell him he's hot.

Regardless of how unspiritual he seems, you let God convict him.

Regardless, he is yours.

No one can love him the way you can.

No one's respect will mean more.

Be his one true love.

Challenge

-Come up with a creative way to say I love you or I respect you.

15 Minutes...

Challenge
-Spend 15 minutes a day this week doing something that will bless your husband

Examples:

~Spend 15 minutes a day~

Massaging his back and feet

Practicing belly dancing

Mending his socks

Praying for him

Helping your kids make a poster of why they love their Daddy

Kissing him all 15 minutes

Be creative and have fun!

Bedtime...

Challenge
-Pick a night this week and plan to give him lots of laughs and lovin's in bed

Thank you...

Challenge
-What has your husband done today that you can appreciate?  Tell him thank you.

love...

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up.

1 Corinthians 13:4

Are you kind after you have suffered long?

Do you envy other women or the time your husband spends with other people?

Do you think you are better or have better ideas?

Challenge

-Take a critical look at how you love your husband.  What needs work?

To-Do...

Challenge
-Ask your husband if there is anything you can do for him today

First...

Challenge
-Put your husband first tonight.

Regardless of how your day went or how tired you are, put your husband first.

He's sexy and you know it...

Challenge
-Write down three things you love about your husband's body

I accept you except...

Are you accepting your husband completely?

Are you showing Christ's love by forgiving him?

Will you be content if he never loses those extra pounds, and maybe even gains a few more?

Do you secretly despise the way he __________?

I am not saying that you should love his sins, or accept his behaviour.

I am saying that he is human and he will make mistakes.

God has forgiven you.

God loves you regardless.

Are you striving to forgive your husband?

Are you striving to love him without changing him?

You cannot change your husband.

Only God can do that.

You are free from that responsibility.

You are free to just love and respect your man and have fun with him.

Challenge
-Look critically at how you think about your husband
-Are you accepting him completely?

One...

Challenge
Do one of the following:
-Clean the bedroom for your husband
-Cook his favorite meal
-Have your children make posters saying how awesome their dad is
-Make a point to touch him (Touch his shoulder as you walk by, hold his hand, touch his arm when you talk to him, etc.)
-Give him some fun in bed tonight (Be creative!)
-Hide love notes in his work pants pockets
-Clean out his car
-Let him go fishing

Prayer...

Challenge
-Surrender to God a situation that worries you
-Pray for God to give your husband wisdom

Disgruntled...

Challenge

-Identify any areas of discontent in your life and give those areas to God

Guy's night...

Challenge
-Make tonight your husband's night.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T...

Do your actions and reactions show that you think highly of your husband and his opinions and decisions?

This is what he wants from you.  

For you to think that he is good enough to take care of you, to lead you, to love you.

He wants you to have faith in him.

He wants you to trust him.

Do you ever question his decisions?

To a man you are questioning his intelligence and authority.

Do you ever push him away in bed?

You are telling him he isn't a good enough man to make you want him.

Do you nag to change or remind him of things over and over?

He will take it as an attack on who he is as a man.

He want you to trust him, to think he is THE MAN.

It means so much to your husband that you would know all his faults, and still trust him, respect him, and obey him.

Even if you are the one who works and he is the one who stays home with the kids, you still need to respect his decisions.  

You need to think of him more highly then of yourself and your own decisions.

Challenge

-Is there any other man that you think of more highly than your husband?  

Work on changing your mental attitude so that your husband is the one who holds your highest regard.  Pray that God will show you your husband's potential.

Ask that God would give you a heart of honor to your husband.

Little things count...

Challenge

-Be thankful for something that you do with your husband or that your husband does for you.  

What might someone else wish her husband did that your man already does?  

Maybe it's just him coming home every night, or maybe it's buying you flowers for Valentine's Day, or the kisses you share before he leaves for work, or your date, or a moonlit walk, or a drive through the countryside.

Help...

Challenge
-Do three things that will  be a help to your husband

Love...

Love your husband like only you can.

Whisper words of encouragement and sweet nothings in his ear before he falls asleep.

Let your face light up when he enters the room.

Let yourself go in the bedroom and love him whole-heartedly.

Cheer him on.

Rub his back and feet.

Laugh at his jokes.

Let him tell his own stories.

Look him in the eye while he's talking.

Be his best friend.

Be his lover.

Challenge(s)

-Love your husband completely

-Forgive his mistakes

-Commit to sticking with him, through thick and thin

Manly...

What have you done lately to make your husband feel like the man?  

Have you inspired him by believing in him, no matter what?  

Challenge

-Write down 3 things you can do to make your husband feel like the MAN

Romantic

One of the most romantic things I do with my husband is helping him mow the lawn.

I am serious.

I snuggle into his lap on the zero turn mower and have his arms around me while he steers.

I never would have known how fun it is if I hadn't offered to help him and been interested in his work and interests.

He likes having me close without feeling like he has to make small talk, and I love being in his arms in the evening sunlight.

What are you missing out on by not helping your husband?

Challenge

-Think about the things your husband does and pick one to learn more about.

Ask him to teach you more about it, and ask if you can do it with him some time.

Rottenness...

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: 

but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 12:4

Do you make your husband ashamed?

It may not be obvious that you are shaming him.

Do you tease him about his weight or bad habits in front of others?

Do you talk about him to other "supportive" women?

Is he embarrassed by the children's behavior?

Could he be embarrassed by your behavior?

Men are very self-conscious about their image.

It is important for them to appear capable and strong to those around them.

Are you helping him to feel like he can take on the world?

Are you helping others to think highly of him?

I don't think any wife truly wants to be like rottenness in her husband's bones.

She want to be a crown to him.

She want him to be proud of her.

Challenge

-Search for ways you may be making your husband ashamed.  Make a very large effort to change your ways.

Quality Time...

Light up when your husband comes home.  

Make it obvious that you want to be around him.  

Go our of your way to spend time helping him and loving on him.

Don't whine about how he never spends time with you.  

Go spend time with him.

Challenge
-Show your husband how much you like being around him

Precious...

Challenge
-Make a list of 3 things you can do today to make yourself more irreplaceable and more precious to your husband.

Joy to the World...

Being joyful is a choice.

I know I have said it before, but I think it needs to be said again, even if only to remind myself.

Thankfulness is at the heart of joyfulness.

Are you joyful, regardless of your husband's decisions?

Are you thankful, regardless of your husband's decisions?

You don't know what God's plans are.

Perhaps God knows that you will need the extra money and has put into your husband's heart to pick up some extra shifts at work.

Maybe He knows that, although your husband has spent ample amounts of money on his hobby, it is an outlet for him, and allowing him to be pleasant with you and the children.

Maybe your husband has made some poor decisions, but God is teaching him so that he will not make a bigger mistake later on.

No matter what happens, God knows your husband, and he knows you.

He wants you to be joyful, to trust him, knowing he will take care of you.

He wants to give you His peace.

Philippians 4:4-8

 Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!

 Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.

 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;  and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Matthew 6:25-30

25 “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?27 Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?

28 “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; 29 and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?

Challenge

-Choose to trust God and be joyful, when you are tempted to be discontent, remember something to be thankful for

Dreams...

What are your husband's dream?
What makes his face light up?
What gets him thinking and dreaming and talking?
Does he share his dreams with you?
How do you respond to them?
Challenge
-Go out of your way to support your husband's dreams.
   Ex. If he wants a farm someday, learn to do farm things that will relate to his farm (drive a tractor, run a chainsaw, milk a cow, plant a garden, etc.), if he wants to own a certain classic car someday, buy him the manual for it, etc.  

Confidence...

Most men are drawn to people with self-confidence.

They are people that they can count on and trust.

Are you striving to be someone your husband wants to be around?

It is perfectly possible to be confident and submissive.

Carry your head high and respect your husband whole-heartedly.

Challenge

-Be confident! Attract your husband's attention with your confident smile and honoring heart.

If you are constantly fretting over decisions, stop often and ask God to guide you and give you wisdom.

If you are feeling beaten down and burdened, remember that Christ's yoke is easy, and his burden is light.  He does not intend for you to be broken down.

List it...

Challenge
-Write down 8 things you like/love/admire about your husband, inside and out.  Fold up your list and put it in your pocket or hang it on the fridge.  Whenever you start to think something negative about your husband, look at your list and thank God for all his good attributes.

I'm Positive...

Don't set your husband up for failure.
Don't have the mindset that he is going to fail.
Don't focus on what he can do for you, or what he isn't going to do for you.
Instead, ask what can you do to make your husband's day better?  What will make him smile?
You will never be happy if you focus on what your husband does wrong or forgets.
Focus on what he does right, and what he remembers.
Love him, regardless.
Respect him, regardless.
Appreciate him.

Challenge
-Focus on the positive today.  
-Don't let yourself think anything negative about your husband.

Patiently...

Love is patient...

Challenge

-Be patient today, no matter what happens

Personally...

Challenge
-Do not take things personally today

Learning...

Learn to be grateful.

Learn to make romance happen, regardless.

Learn to learn from your husband.

Learn to be strong.

Learn to be a helpful person.

Learn to laugh with your husband.

Learn to learn, in every situation.

We have to work to have a good marriage.  

The work pays off.

Learn to believe you will reap what you sow.

Challenge

-Think about a time when you reaped what you had sown, good or bad.  What can you learn from that experience?

respect...

Challenge
-Write down three ways you can change how you respond to your husband that will show your repect

Help...

Challenge
-Be helpful today.

Pretty Please...

Challenge
-What can you do today that will please your husband?

Challenge
-Rub his back/feet/whole body tonight before bed
-Make it a habit to smile at him when you first wake up

Obsession...

Every man has an obsession.  Some men have multiple ones.

This obsession could be anything, some examples being: hunting, fishing, restoring cars, playing video games, building computers, watching a sport, or even sometimes work.

What do you do when your husband is in the midst of his obsession?

There are various responses and actions you can choose.

You can:

A. Confront him about it.

B. You can mope and pout.

C.You can join him.

D. You can use the time he is busy to do something yourself. 

If you want what is best for your marriage, there are right and wrong answers.

A Wrong  

(He will take this an attack on who he is as a person and think you do not respect him)

 B Wrong

(This will make him want to spend even less time with you.)

C Correct

(Men often think it romantic when their girls join them in their hobbies.)

D Correct

(Examples ranging anywhere from learning a new skill to doing your own hobby)

Or, you can really show your love and do something for him.

If he is gone for extended amounts of time, do his to-do list for him.

If he is home, you can still do his chores, serve him a meal in front of the TV, rub hi shoulders, etc.

Challenge

-Take a critical look at how you normally respond to him while he is in the middle of his hobby/obsession

-Decide how you should be responding to him and make a large effort to change

Dolled up...

Challenge
-Do three things to your appearance today that your husband will like

He loves you...

I am still learning to be a good wife.

I will always be learning.

Most recently I have been learning to change my thinking.

My biggest change is this:

Just because your man is not sentimental does not mean he does not love you.

Most husbands would die for their wives.

 Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.

John 15:13 (KJV)
You are your man's best friend, and he would die for you.
He has the greatest love for you.

Challenge

-Look for ways that your husband cares for you (Shows his love)

Examples: He works to provide for you, he takes care of your car, he holds the door for you, he likes for you  to sit next to him, he explains things, he is not violent with you, he has apologized, he asks how your day was, he hugs you, etc.

-Pray and thank God for all the ways your husband shows you he loves you and ask God to reveal more ways that your husband cares for you that you have missed.

Joy...

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. Philippians 4:4

Rejoice always, 1 Thessalonians 5:16

And now my head shall be lifted up above my enemies all around me; Therefore I will offer sacrifices of joy in His tabernacle; I will sing, yes, I will sing praises to the LORD. Psalm  27:6

Challenge

-Be joyful and cheerful today.  It is a choice to be joyful, to not be overwhelmed by evil, but to overwhelm evil with good.  It is a choice to respond to your husband with a smile, regardless.

It is a sacrifice to God.

Personally...

Challenge

-Don't take anything personally today

Being hurt by someone is often a choice.

We choose to put ourselves and our desires above someone else's and we are disappointed when that person doesn't do something for us.

Love that person instead of holding a grudge.

Serving them is the best way to change your heart attitude.

Honor...

Challenge
-Write down three ways you can show your husband reverence and honor

Sex...

Most women are under the impression that men just want more sex, that they will never have enough.

The truth is that your man wants you to want him sexually.  Your sexual desire for him is what satisfies him.  

He wants you to have fun with him.

Sex is such a huge part of his life, and your lack of desire for it is a lack of a desire for him.  It is a reflection of your heart.

Men take sexual rejection personally.  

When you ignore his advances, use an excuse (too tired, headache, not in the mood, etc) or just flat out say no, you are not just saying no to sex, men take is a no to who they are as a man.

Sex is the best way for you to tell your husband that he is the most important thing in your life.  

Sex is a way for your husband to feel completely accepted and loved by you.

Besides all that, it is your duty to give him great sex.

The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.  Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

1 Cor 7:4-5 (KJV)

His body is yours to take care of.

Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
1 Cor 11:9 (KJV)

You are made to be his help-meet.
You are made to meet his needs.

Do not wait until you are "in the mood".
Seek to put your husband first.
Learn to delight in serving him
Get creative.
Surprise him.

Your desire to please him sexually will bolster his confidence.
Your desire for him physically affirms him, makes him feel like he can take on the world.

Challenge

-Plan ahead to give your husband great sex in the next couple days.

If you are lost as to how to make this great for your husband, ask God to give you wisdom and inspiration.

Assume the best...

Challenge
-Assume the best

Always assume your husband has the best intentions.

Don't take things personally.

Praying for your man...

Challenge
-Write down three things you will pray for your husband

Ex. For God to give him wisdom, for God to grow his love for the Word, for God to give him strength to resist temptation, for God to grow his love for you and the kids, etc.

-Decide what your reminders to pray for him will be

Ex. Put a picture of your husband on your bathroom mirror and pray for him every time you see it, pray for him every time you put a load of laundry in the washer, pray for him while making his lunch, etc.

Pray without ceasing.

1 Thessalonians 5:17

Homework...

Challenge
-Do three things around the house that will please your husband.  
While doing these things, pray for God to give your husband wisdom.

A cheerful heart...

Challenge

-Commit to being cheerful today, regardless of the circumstances.  

God is in charge and he will take care of you.  

Don't take anything personally.

Irreplaceable...

Challenge
-Do three things that will make you more precious to your husband

Tonight is his night...

Challenge
-Make tonight great for your husband.

You know him better than anyone else.

Would he rather you rent his favorite movie and watch it with him?

Would he rather have you in nothing but your birthday suit when he gets home?

Would he rather you sit in his workshop and watch him work?

What would be the perfect evening for him?

The "S" word, Submit

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  

Eph 5:22

As wives we are told to submit to our husbands, as unto the Lord.

If God told you to stop working in Sunday School, would you?

What if your husband asked you?

If God asked you to have supper ready when he got there, even after a long tiring day, would you?

What if your husband asked you?

If God told you to do something, anything, would you argue with him, or pout, or question his authority?

What is your response to your husband?

We are told to submit to our husbands, as unto the Lord.  God has made our husbands our leaders.,and he has told us to follow them.

We obey and honor God when we obey and honor our husbands.

Do you believe that God knows what he is doing and will take care of you?

He knows what your husband will say and do.

He has still asked you to submit to your man.

Challenge

-Critically look at how you respond to your husband.  

Do you have a negative attitude when he expresses his wishes or thoughts?  

Do you ask him if he's sure about his decisions?

Do you manipulate him with your questions, bible verses, subtle hints, etc?

Would you rather have a fair marriage, or a happy one?

Thank you...

Challenge
-Write a list to your husband containing the things you are thankful that he is, has done, or is doing.

No action or trait is too small.  Thank him for everything.

Somewhere there is a wife who wishes her husband would do what your man already does.

Bettering

A joyful wife is better than a perfect home-maker. (1 Thes. 5:16; Phil. 4:4)

A forgiving wife is better than a correct wife. (Mark 12:31)

A reverencing wife is better than a physically perfect wife. (Eph. 5:33)

A praying wife is better than a convicting wife. (Phil. 4:6-7)

I have learned these things from elder women and from first hand experience.

Challenge

-Write down 2 things that would make you a better wife for your husband.

Not what would make you better in the world's eyes, but what will make you more precious in his eyes.

Study the bible for yourself.  What does it say we should be as believers and wives?

Man of your life

Challenge
Pick and do 2 of the following to your husband; he's the man of your life
-Give your husband a full body massage

-Place a sign in your yard that says something like "THE WORLD'S BEST HUSBAND LIVES HERE"

-Clean his car

-Eat by candlelight

-Make a point to touch him every time you pass him, hold his hand while sitting with him, and maybe play footsie at the table.

-Jump in the shower with him

-Send him a sexy text and then follow through later

Eyes only for you...

I know the last post was about modesty, but that does not mean go out and buy a bunch of denim jumpers and straight skirts.

If you want your husband to look only at you, make it more fair and become someone worth looking at.

Find out what he likes for you to wear, and how he likes for you to do your hair.

Make a decision to dress up for him when he gets home.  

Change out of your sweatpants and baggy t-shirt.

Put your hair up, or braid it and put a fancy barrette in if you don't have a lot of time.  

Throw on some mascara, if you where make-up.

Most importantly,

Always wear a smile and be ready to laugh.

Challenge

-Dress up for your husband for the next 5 days.

                               and/or

-Have him pick out your underwear every morning for the next 5 mornings.

Modesty

Modesty is about protecting brothers in Christ, not about protecting yourself.

Men think differently than us.  Much differently.
I have found the following website extremely useful in helping to understand the male mind.
The Rebelution Modesty Survey
They took men, from many different countries, ranging in ages from 12 to over 50, and asked them what they think is modest, and what is not.
Most of men take complete responsibility for their thoughts, but it would be nice if their sisters in Christ helped them out.

It's about putting others first, and keeping them in mind.

You may not know what the man, who sits the next pew over, went through before he was saved.  Even though he may be striving to follow Christ whole-heartedly now, do you want Satan to use your apparel to remind him of something in the past?

Do you dress for attention, wearing something just because it makes you look good?

Does your husband approve of the clothes you wear out of the house?

Is he afraid to say something to you about them?

Challenge

-Critically think about your wardrobe and your attitude towards clothing and men.

If you think that men just have dirty minds and should keep their eyes to themselves, please look at your heart attitude.  Love puts others first.  

If you wear an outfit just because you think you look great in it, please beware.  Before my husband and I were married, the times he stumbled were the times I thought I looked great, and I dress and act very modestly compared to most women.  

If you are unsure about something, don't wear it.

And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Matthew 22:39

Whose adorning, let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

1 Peter 3:4&5

No one likes a whiner...

Challenge
-Say nothing negative today.  Period.

Homework...

No one likes to come home to a stressful or messy house.

Challenge

-Do three things around the house that will please your husband. 

Maybe it's finally clearing the papers off the desk, or maybe it's getting the bedroom set up for a romantic night.  No one knows what your man will like better than you.

Double Standard

We women want our husbands to know us.

We want them to know our favorite restaurants, our favorite drinks, our favorite authors, when to touch us, when to listen to us, when to offer to help us, when to let us figure it out on our own, (fill in what you want your husband to know here)______________, etc.

We want them to study us like when we were first in love.

We want them to know us.

But how often do we take the time to know our men and their desires.

Most wives know their man's favorite meal, favorite socks, favorite color, etc.  We know the things that we think are important.

But do you know how your husband's favorite team or player is doing this year?

Do you know what gun is his favorite on his new video game?

Do you know what his favorite type of wood to split is?

Do you really know what he wants in bed, or are you doing just enough to tide him over?

Are you studying him?

Are you taking the time to know him?

Challenge

-Study your husband today.  Watch him and join him in whatever he is doing.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Last Day!

Proverbs 31:31

Give her the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Challenge

-Believe you will reap what you sow.  What are you sowing?

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 20

Proverbs 31:30

Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

Challenge

-Today, focus more on what the Lord thinks of you, than what other people think of you.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 19

Proverbs 31:29

Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

Challenge

-Strive to excel

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 18

Proverbs 31:28

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Challenge

-Accept your husband's compliments.  Don't just brush them off as something he has to say, or is saying to get something.  Love believes all things.  Believe your husband.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 17

Proverbs 31:28

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

Challenge

-Look after your household.  Take stock of what you and your children do every moment of today.  

-Do not be idle.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 16

Sorry for the lack of posts lately.

Proverbs 31:26 

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

Challenge

-Be Kind  (And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.  Ephesians 4:32)

-Ask for Wisdom  (If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. James 1:5)

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 15

Proverbs 31:25

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

Challenge

-Don't slouch.  Be strong and honorable.  Bear yourself like you are your husband's queen, his right hand, his representative.   You will rejoice in time to come.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 14

Proverbs 31:24

She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

Challenge

-Write down 2 things you can do to either contribute to yoru husband's income or make it stretch farther.  Even little things add up.

Examples to get you thinking: Make something and sell it online, have a yard sale, turn the water off when you are shampooing, buy in bulk, etc.

Proverbs 31:23 Day 13

Proverbs 31:23

Her husband is known int he gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

Challenge

-Commit to supporting your husband, reverencing him, building him up, and bringing him honor.

What if the Proverbs 31 woman had spent her time and energy whining and complaining about her lot in life, how little her husband does around the house, asking him why he isn't more spiritual, or nagging him to do things and then telling him a better way to do them?

Your husband is your provider, comrade, and best friend.

If you do not want the best for him, please make praying that God would put that on your heart your challenge for today.

Men want to succeed.  

They want people to tell them good job.  They especially want their families to praise them, to really believe in them.

If the Proverbs 31 woman had been a nagging or manipulative woman, would her husband have been confident enough to face life head on?  What if she was constantly complaining about him to other women and they told their husbands?  Would he have had the confidence to be a man, and have enough respect to sit with the elders?

I don't think so.

As your husband's comrade and helper, you should be wanting the best for him, and actively working for that.

Build your man up.

Give him confidence to take on the world.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 12

Proverbs 31:22

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

Challenge

-Find out what your husband likes in the way of clothing, accessories, and hair styles.  Now learn how to make or adorn something in one of these categories.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 11

Proverbs 31:21

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

Challenge

-Do 1 thing that will make you or your family more prepared

 Examples to get you thinking/started:Pack an emergency bag for each child, make and freeze a meal, post emergency numbers on the fridge, start a garden, etc.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 10

Proverbs 31:20

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

Challenge

-Look for ways to be more compassionate and giving this month.  Write down what you are going to do, and do it.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 9

Proverbs 31:19

She layeth her hand to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

Challenge

-Cheerfully do mundane tasks.

The key to marriage

The key to being a good wife and having a good marriage isn't being the perfect housekeeper, being a wonder woman in bed, raising perfect kids, or being a Martha Stewart like cook and designer.

The key is putting your husband first.  

It means cleaning the house so it's a relaxing place when he comes home.

It means cooking his favorite meal and going out of the way to have it ready before he's home.

It means sending him a naughty text message.

It means just sitting and watching him play his video game and cheering him on.

It means listening to his day first and not burdening him with complaints about your own.

It means following his decisions and laying aside your own wants.

It means raising his children so that they will bring him honor and not shame.

It means having fun in bed.

It means doing whatever he wants and trusting god with the outcome.

It means loving him unconditionally, the way you want to be loved.

It means sticking with him, even when he screws up.

It means having fun and laughing with him, even when times are tough.

It means reassuring him, building him up, believing God has big plans for him.

It means praying for him and knowing that with God nothing is impossible.

Challenge

-Put your husband first today, and every day after.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 8

Proverbs 31:18

She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

Challenge

-Take stock of your work.  Is it good, or are you doing a mediocre job?  Are you willing to work long hours to make it good?

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 7

Proverbs 31:17

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

Challenge

-Go out of your way to work and play hard today.  

Examples: Play tag with your kids, build a fort outside with them, vigorously do the housework you've been putting off, do a couple sit-ups during a commercial break, scrub the floor by hand, etc.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 6

Proverbs 31:16

She considereth a field and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hand she planteth a vineyard.

Challenge

-Choose something you are planning on doing, or have started, and see it through.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 5

Proverbs 31:15

She riseth while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

Challenge

-Get up earlier in order to help your husband get ready for work, and then prepare yourself and the house for the day

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 4

Proverbs 31:13&14

She seeketh wool and flax and worketh willingly with her hands.  She is like the merchant's ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

Challenge-

-Write down 3 ways you can become more of a diligent producer and less of a passive consumer.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 3

Verse 12

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Challenge

-Decide to do good in every situation today.

Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

Romans 12:21

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 2

Proverbs 31:11

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he hath no need of spoil.

He does not need spoil for greater glory.  She gives him all the admiration and praise he needs,

He does not need spoil for monetary gains.  He trust her to spend his money wisely.

He does need spoils to prove himself.  She knows that he can tell her anything and she will still love, accept, and honor him.  He knows she sill not sat anything that will embaress him or lower other's esteem of him.

Do regularly praise your husband and express gratitude?

Do you spend his hard-earned money frivolously?

Can he tell you anything?

Challenge

-Make a commitment to not say anything negative about your husband or his decisions, even in a teasing way.

Proverbs 31:10-31 Day 1

Proverbs 31:10

Who can find a virtuous woman?  For her price is far above rubies.

Challenge

-Write down 3 things you can do to make yourself more irreplaceable and precious